I recently have been a lot more vocal about my relationship with social media and thought I would share a little behind the scenes.
When I work really long hours, I start to go into this comparison mode. And then I feel like at the end of the day, sometimes my brain is so foggy that I can't process anything. Burnout, Anxiety, overwhelm, comparison, brain fog - it's A LOT, and it started to creep up ALOT more lately. I knew I needed to do things differently in my business and life so I started to study my habits a little closely, specifically as they related to social media, what I was doing on social media, and what results I was getting.
And that part is key.
I watched the Netflix documentary Social Dilemma and boy, was it eye-opening. Can you believe that one of the founders of Pinterest doesn't even have the app on his phone?!
I was also noticing my kids and my husband's relationship with me and my laptop. I joke that I have this office that I just redid because we've been home for so long, and I end up working at the kitchen table most of the time. But when my kids come downstairs and I'm on my computer or I'm on my phone, it creates this negative connotation, like, Oh, mommy's working again, mommy's on her phone again. It was assigned to me that I really wasn't being as present as I should be. Even though I'm obsessively time-blocking and making sure I'm doing all the things, I knew that I needed to change something.
I started in networking marketing almost six years ago and as of November of last year, I couldn’t remember a day where I wasn’t on social media. We were taught back before Instagram to share on Facebook 4-5 times a day. Share 15 stories. Post every day. It was part of my everyday routine, but not in a good way. Can you imagine what you would do if you stood in line and while waiting didn’t scroll on your phone? I could not.
My brain had ZERO whitespace. I was either working, parenting, or scrolling at all times of the day. And I learned that that white space is what I need to be successful, handle my anxiety, and honestly just have more joy (aka less comparison).
I'm not saying that you shouldn't be on social media, but there are some steps I think that you can take to have a really healthy relationship. These five steps are some things that I do incorporated with Psychology Today. I love the psychological impact of some of these things!
What does this mean for my business?
I encourage you to take a look at what you are doing on social right now and ask yourself, can you do it consistently for 2-3 years? For me, it was a HARD NO. What can you do to control your time? And relationship? And actually, focus more on real life! :) Let’s face it we all use filters! Lol.
Jump into the community and ask! And share! I am happy to help!
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