Episode 628: Why You Keep Getting in Your Own Way: How to Clear the Self-Sabotage Patterns Stalling Your Growth
Jun 22, 2026
Have you ever felt like you've done all the things...read the books, hired the coach, gone to therapy...and yet somehow you still find yourself stuck in the same patterns?
In this powerful conversation, Holly sits down with neuro-somatic practitioner and Identity X expert Riana Malia to explore what happens when personal growth reaches a point where traditional mindset work isn't enough. Together, they unpack how subconscious programming, stored emotions, and outdated identities can quietly shape our decisions, relationships, and business success.
If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating the same cycles despite your best efforts, this episode offers a fresh perspective (and practical tools) to help you create lasting change.
In this episode, you'll hear:
- Why high-achieving women often stay stuck despite doing extensive personal development work
- The difference between your conscious mind and subconscious programming
- How people-pleasing and "nice girl" conditioning continue to influence decisions
- Why repeating your story may actually keep you trapped in it
- The importance of clearing old identities before creating new results
- How to identify the beliefs and patterns that are quietly running the show
- Rihanna's simple 72-hour "Away vs. Toward" exercise for rewiring your focus
- The role of frequency, attention, and emotional regulation in creating change
- How self-sabotage shows up when you're close to your next level of growth
- A practical framework for moving through the Clear → Create → Claim process
CONNECT WITH RIANA:
Website: https://www.rianamalia.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/
What’s Standing Between You And Extraordinary Love Quiz: https://quiz.rianamalia.com/
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